Well, another trip is over. We’re sitting at Narita Airport in the lounge for Zip Air. (Yes, you heard that right. Great fares for lie-flat seats between Tokyo and LAX on this discount airline owned by JAL.)
Relaxing at the Narita Travel Lounge before our Zip Air non-stop flight to LAX
And we’re reflecting back on our first post-Covid cruise.
As always, we met some great people. On this itinerary, there was a lively gathering each night of fellow LGTBQ travelers, including a fellow we first met taking a southern Pacific crossing from Sydney to San Diego back in 2018. As usual, passengers were largely American and Canadians. On this route, there were also many Asian travelers, whereas on previous HAL cruises, even those in the Far East, we usually encountered far more folk from Europe than Asia.
Maybe it’s cultural or language barriers or just the chilly weather of the north Pacific, but there seemed less interaction among these guests than on previous cruises. Another thing we noticed is a distinct wariness about talking about anything political.
It was almost as though Canadians didn’t want to embarrass us by bringing up the GOP and MAGA madness. And among fellow Americans, we all tread carefully quickly changing the subject whenever a topic veered too closely to topics in alternative universes—like vaccines, the 2020 election, and immigration.
That’s not to say the undercurrents of political tension and cultural tension weren’t there. There was one old fellow who never appeared on deck without his anti-Biden hat. I had to chuckle at another passenger who felt compelled to proclaim that he would not have the dessert featuring Ben and Jerry’s because of the company’s politics. (In fair play, let me proclaim that I will not shop at Hobby Lobby.) Then there was the very drunk passenger who verbally abused one of our fellow passengers in what seemed a definite homophobic attack.
On the plus side, I do have to say that at least on this ship, everyone seemed very sympathetic and supportive of any entertainer who hailed from the Ukraine. Maybe that still bonds us.
This trip marks nearly 40 years of cruising, beginning in the spring of 1984 with a Caribbean cruise on a Holland America ship called the Rotterdam. Along the way, we’ve seen many things come and go as traveling habits change. We don’t miss the skeet shoots off the back deck or the hobby horse derbies, but we do feel a twinge of sadness at the disappearance of the march of the flaming baked Alaskas, tableside service of cherries jubilee (flaming again), and the midnight buffets. But staterooms have become nicer in general, the public spaces grander, and the entertainment better.
Still, as a way of purging my sadness of things lost, I do need to create my own “In Memoriam” of all the things lost from the past decade due to what I surely believe to be penny pinching and cost cutting. Play the sad dirge and imagine the cavalcade of photos . . .
- Having both an appetizer and a soup or salad course
- Finding chocolates on the pillow left at turndown service
- Turndown service itself (which they will do if it’s requested, and we did)
- Fresh flowers on the dining room table
- Fresh fruit in the room, refreshed daily
- Wine stewards in the dining room
- Nuts in the bars (again something you now generally need to request)
- Appetizers served at receptions, events and happy hours
- The daily 4-page New York Times Digest delivered to your room each day
- Dinner service planned for an hour and 15 minutes instead of 45 minutes
- Live music in the Ocean Bar during that otherwise quiet period of 5 to 8
- Classical music
- After-dinner mints handed out as you leave the dining room
- Salt and pepper shakers on the tables around the pool
- Stewards pouring coffee and orange juice outdoors on the Lido deck during breakfast time
- Cooking classes from America’s Test Kitchen
- Two different guest lecturers
- An on-board port consultant who had regular hours to answer any questions about the upcoming port and actually knew the ports he or she described during port talks
- Daily recent movies shown in screening rooms
- Trinkets and prizes (and earlier, those Dam dollars) awarded for trivia and other competition
- A Holland America magazine and guide in every stateroom
But do note that, as much as I enjoy them, I didn’t list the slow disappearance of formal nights. I recognize these occasions are something the majority of passengers themselves (not the accountants) are ready to discard. Some things simply disappear because of changing tastes. We even left our tuxedos at home this trip.
End my sad crawl through cruise traditions lost. And I’ll admit that a couple of those losses simply reflect a general move to making all information available on line and using the cruise ship app. (Although it is disconcerting to see couples on board during dinner just paging through their phones instead of enjoying the cruise experience.)
So let me give some advice to myself: buckle up and acknowledge that life moves on. Sail on!
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